Daily Archives: July 6, 2012

Goin’ Down Slow


Music, it has its own way to calm you down or rile you up. Pop in your favorite track and that traffic jam will not bother you anymore.

For those who are yet to discover the joys of this wonderful world, there are quite a number of genres to experiment with.

My foray into this world started when I was in middle school. Trying to be one of the “cool” kids, got me listening to and paying attention to the tracks that were played on the radio, or when my dad used to play one of his favorites from the everlasting classics.

What started out as a means to gain attention, soon turned into a passion and quite frankly, a slight obsession. Of all the genres I was exposed to, the blues is what caught my attention. the experiences and struggles of the singer or song writer were so beautifully expressed. It was poetry with a catchy tune. And the repetition of those lines only made it easier to understand and remember the lyrics. (when you have to stay cool, you need to know the words!)

After a point in time, people around me considered to be well educated and informed in this genre. I had listened to so many songs of this beautiful music; I didn’t realize I was turning heads with my knowledge.

Of all the great singers who ever expressed themselves so beautifully via their blues, Wolf was one that earned the name of the greatest Blues singer ever. He earned this name for a reason – his voice!

Tonsillitis is something that derails many singers, but not this guy. His voice became what it was due to the severe tonsillitis that affected him as a child. Born a black, thrown out of home and raised by an uncle who physically abused him by constantly whipping him with a leather plow lone, this guy had seen it all and experienced it all. Perhaps this experience is what lent the soul to his voice.

And then came the mix.

Blues were changed to blues rock. This attracted more people and more of the younger crowd who wanted a bit of both worlds. But as the tracks increased and gained popularity, the original form of blues was, perhaps forgotten?

Many did not know what the original blues were or what the old classics were. So I decided to compile a list of the blues that made an impact on my mind. Something like the Belas Dicas, an experienced beautician would give for her clients.


Circumstances seem to call for a good blues. And this is a VERY good blues which sum it all up rather succinctly.

Over to you Wolf…


Bad news travels fast

I’m sitting here eying up a large paper parcel. My latest haul of drugs from the Island pharmacy. When I picked them up this morning the girl behind the counter quipped that I’ve just about cleaned them out. It certainly looks that way. I’m pretty sure I hold more inventory than they do right now.

For the first time, my personal pharmacy stash features “pain relief” of a more exotic nature than just plain old Paracetamol. Codeine. Morphine. Just the words send a chill through my bones, but I am beginning to feel the need for them.

This is no longer an invisible disease, as it was for the forst few months. The tells are starting to reveal themselves. People still greet me with rave reviews of how well I’m looking, which I accept gracefully, if with a tad of carefully concealed irritation. My cancer is starting to reveal itself in various ways, some subtle, others more obvious. Some the direct consequence of the disease itself, others the legacy of the various treatments I have undertaken.

What started out as totally invisible was then “discovered” in my body and I did my best to keep it a secret, simply because, I wanted to avoid all those questions and pity glances. However, as time passed by, the disease decided to show itself to the world and declare its claim on me and my life. It was like how your sweaty feet, sometimes wins the odor was despite using layers of Fresh Fingers.

I have numbness in my feet and toes, a permanent side-effect of the chemotherapy, as is the intermittent tinitus in both ears. My voice is croaky and unreliable as a result of an enlarged cancerous lymph node on my upper chest paralysing the nerve which controls one of my vocal chords. (There’s a good story attached to how they managed to give me most of my voice back – I was almost totally mute for some weeks – but that will have to wait for another day.) I also have a persistent and unrelenting cough, probably related to the vocal chord business, but exacerbated by the recent course of radiation therapy.

More recently, I have developed deep, nagging pains in my back, chest, and belly. A minor irritation at first, they are now constantly present reminder of my slowly deteriorating condition, and keep me awake at night. It’s getting to the point where Paracetamol just isn’t cutting it any more. I went to the doctor this morning to get something a bit more shall we say, industrial.

I should mention, that I went for a long scheduled CT scan yesterday afternoon – the first since finishing chemo several months ago – mainly to monitor the tumour, and to see what positive effect the radiation therapy has had on the errant lymph nodes in my chest. We have a meeting set with The Prof. next week to get the results. The wait for scan results is for us, the most stressful part of the whole exercise, and we have been hunkering down for a long anxious wait until next Wednesday’s showdown.

So I was totally unprepared when I skipped into the island surgery this morning to pick up a few scripts and have a routine kick-of-the-tyres “take two of these and call me in the morning” session with Doctor Dave, when he brandishes a sheaf of papers in his bony, freckled fist and announces, ‘I have your scan report. Have you seen it yet?’

‘You can’t,’ I said, shocked. ‘I only had the scan at four o’clock yesterday. That must be an old one, these things usually take a few days to processes.’

‘Not in the private sector they don’t. That’s what you’re paying for. This just came through. Do you want the news now, or do you want to wait?”

“Wait.” a little voice said in my head. The coward’s voice.

“Um. Yeah. I guess…” I heard myself saying quietly, without conviction.

“Well, there’s chapter and verse here,” he says, leafing through the document, but I’ll just give you the Summery.” He pulls his chair alongside mine and leans into me as if reading a bedtime story.

“Since the last CT scan, there are new and enlarged supraclavicular and mediastinal and nodal metastases, new uper abdominal and retroperitneal nodal metastases, and new liver and pulminary metastases.”

I feel the hot burn of adrenalin wash through me. “Shit, that doesn’t sound good.” I finally announced, with what in retrospect was admirable understatement.

“No it doesn’t” says Doctor Dave.

“So it’s in my liver and my lungs?” I ask redundantly and helplessly.

“Looks that way.”

Dr. Dave does what all doctors do in these awkward, uncomfortable situations. He snaps into a flurry of pointless but smehow essential activity – making notes, dashing off prescriptions, listening to random parts of my body with his stethoscope, basically anything to fill the uncomfortable void where the dead guy is sitting.

I stumble out into the winter sunshine and go home to break the news to Jo.

She cries.

I cry.

We cry together.